I loved a Belgian once

[JKLDdancer]

You've heard the story a million times in movies or stories boy meets girl, girl and boy fall in love but boy lives half the world away and girl lives in America. Boy has to leave, boy leaves forever and girl is sad. They never meet again.
Sad hu? I know because it happened to me. He was my true love. I loved him from the very first momment I saw him and loved him from the very last momment he left. I still love him but he's gone forever. It's hard to deal with the things you have to go through for love but he was worth every tear that was shed and all the pain that followed. I hope we meet again but I don't plan to travel there and he wont be returning. So the end is already gone and now there must be a new beging, how to start it I will never know. There's no real question I'm asking I just want to make it know to anyone that reads this that I was in love once and still am with someone wonderful and he was from your beautiful country of Belgium that is only a picture in a book to me and very far place away from home. But I'm sure it's a beautiful part of the world. It has to be it contains something very special to me. My love.
If you don't want someone to leave they wont,
if you keep them in your heart they will be with you forever.
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[mind_guerilla]

hi,couldn't help to feel your pain.I'm in Belgium for the moment,so if you need anything...
bye
J

[JKLDdancer]

THANX A LOT FOR TAKING THE TIME TO WRITE IT MEANS A LOT! iF YOU WANT TO TALK E-MAIL ME AT JKLDdancer@aol.com! BYE!\
julia

[limbak2]

fokkers?

[Caroline_vd]

Hello you sad birds!!

You know, it's not only long distance that makes life hard. I'm a Belgian who lived in the US for a couple of years, and there I fell in love with one of my high school friends from back home. We had a long distance relationship for quite some time, and then I came back to Belgium to continue my studies and to finally be with him. And see, we were together for one year, but there was too much pressure from outside to keep us apart. We ended up breaking up. We live in the same town, and we haven't spoken to each other more than once the last year. Not because we got over each other, but because we didn't, and we don't want to fall again for each other. It's too hard. You can live close-by or far away, distance is not the reason why people break up. It's their strength against the context that is tested. But if you really love someone, distances don't matter. So if they do matter, they are just an excuse, or the love was not strong enough from one side or the other. It makes life harder, but being close-by the love of your life and not being able to do anything about it, is even harder. As long as you have choices, make them. If you can't make choices, then accept your fate. That's how I try to live right now. And just for the records, Belgium is a beautiful country, but the climate really sucks, and the people sometimes do too. In another country, i would have been the happiest person on earth with the man of my dreams, and i would be married by now. Because if we are not together, it's because of society's expectations and our family's wishes. Fighting with the people we love the most will not make us happy, so that's why we are not together anymore. It might sound silly, it's not what happens in movies, but movies usually come from the USA, where people have different standards. And I can't change the standards of a country on my own...
Anyways, I hope we will all at the end still find love and happiness, wherever it may be. Take care!

[JKLDdancer]

Thank you for responding! What you said is acctualy what has hapened but I Live in the US and he lives there, I would fly over there at this very moment to tell him that I love him!!! But we stoped talking a month before he left and he never said good bye so I would feel horible if I went all the way to Belgium to only find out that he dosn't love me anymore. I havne't stoped thinking about him, I think of him every day! Hes been gone for 4 months, What do I do???
JKLD

[Anna_Wilson]

Courage, dancer...
As they say, what's meant to be will be.
My situation is a little different to yours. The love of my life is in another country, too. He's in the US on a seven month scholarship. We're engaged, so it's a little different, because I know he's coming back (only 9 weeks to go, in fact!) But I just want to tell you that if you feel that strongly about your Belgian love, you have to let him know that you still love and miss him. You don't want to look back in years to come and wonder "what if?" If it truly is love, as you believe, then he just may say that he feels the same way.
Good luck!



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Anna

[JKLDdancer]

Tahnk you for your advice! It not every day that I get responses from people! I'm leaving for france in a couple of days but I don't know if I should go see him or not, What if he forgot about me? I just don't know but I still love hime and cant stop thinking of him and it's been months.
Thank you
Dancer

[Anna_Wilson]

Just do it, Dancer. What have you got to lose?

Best of luck....Let us know how you go.



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Anna

[donkiwel]

dearest dancer,
i totally agree with anna, that just give it a shot... you won't loose anything and i'm sure that he still remembers you...
if you think that you are living far away from him, i live like in the other part of the world and my love is in belgium. well, i'm a malaysian and my love is a belgian. i know him since i was 16. we were pen-friends. i got his name and address as i registred with the IYS (international youth service). he was 17 and we always write to one another telling about everything and anything that happened in our lives. deep down inside me, never it came across my mind that this dear pen-friend of mine was going to be the love of my life. i didn't even think that i was going to meet him one day cause we are very far apart. then, when i finished school, i got an offer from malaysian government to study English in England. so, i arrived here in london last year. the first thing i did was, i sent him a letter telling him that i was alrady here in london. he couldn't see me last year. only this year's march he came to see me. he told me that the first time he saw me, he felt in love with me. it was, incredible and i just can;'t describe my feelings when i first saw him... the guy that i've been writing letters to and seeing only his pictures and handwriting. now, our love is getting even stronger. there are a lot of obstacles that we have to go through and we know the fact but, nothing can stop us (only God)as we are going to try our very best to be together. although his only 24 and i'm 23 we have planned our future together as i can't live without him and so does him. we've been pen-friends for 7 years and now we are lovers. hope God is with us. and to you dancer, i hope you'll meet him and do tell himk that you still think about him and i'll be more than happy for you if the two of you are together again. do tell me about it... with love and regard form me, donkiwel.

[Anna_Wilson]

Donkiwel,
Good to hear a success story!

Good luck !


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Anna

[donkiwel]

anna,
you are so sweeeeeeeeetttt,.... do you know that?

[Anna_Wilson]

Yes, D, of course I know that!!! LOL

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Anna

[donkiwel]

hehehehehhehehehe,
i bet you are.... chat with ya later, maybe after this weekend cause i got some stupid dessertation to do...argh!!!! there goes my weekend...
donkiwel

[trishs_Angeleyes]

I Love a Belgium Man. Yes, we met on the net. And, I fell so hard, and so fast that I couldn't believe it was possible. But, the fact remains... I love him. He came to me here in the states. My mind told me this would bring the cold hard facts of reality to the surface. It did. I fell farther in love him, if at all possible. Couldn't get enough of him, nor he of me.

I don't understand the culture's of his world, nor will I pretend too. I know in my heart that there is no future for us. But yet, my heart wont let him go.

I'll be visiting him soon, and he has plans to return here. He tells me how much he loves me, and how he wants me, yet the culture runs so deep in him, I know he will never let it go. I love him with all that I am, all I ever hope to be.

My mind tells me to end it, not to go to him, and my heart crys for him. In one of the messages that's posted, someone said distance has nothing to do with it. In some ways you are so rite. Yet in others, you couldn't be more wrong. I can't count the many times, that I needed to feel his arms about me, or his lips on mine. To look deeply in his loving eyes. To feel him as close as skin.

I love him, and I know that I will forever love him. He owns my heart, my soul, and yes my body. I've never been loved the way he loves me. Nor do I ever expect to be. And, I will treasure him, and his love forever. Time, nor distance can't change that.

I wish I could understand the culture, the ways of family there.

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Your Kentucky Sunshine